T2--hope your Thanksgiving was great...you do have much to give thanks for...but I am sure it is tough.....at least you have choices what you can do, and I assume you are are going to move forward!!!!!!!!
Take care.....deal with the bad days by coming here and telling us your feelings..
T2, I'm still trying to figure out how to get on Yahoo Instant Messanger. I am in need of some feedback on my sitch.(See my thread-You Can't Hurry Love) I know I'm freaking-I got in my car and actually drove to his apt. to make sure he was there!! He was. All his lights were out, but I could see he had the TV on in his bedroom. Am I going mad??? Rachael
I am stopping in to report that I've been a good DEB (DBer) for NINE straight days in a row.
Even made it through a hairy down turn this weekend without changing my mood from a positive one and THAT resulted in my H coming to me to apologize for 'acting distant' due to his bad cold etc...
I'm such a good DBer this week....will someone PLEAZZZZ give me a gold star To tell ya the truth...if I act any nicer...I'm going to give MYSELF diabetes from all the 'sugar' I'm full of. LOL T2
Good to here you keeping the PMA good. I hope your teeth don't fall out. I have those days too when all the niceness is just too much.
But, I learned the hard way, we have to do what works don't we. If my H was back, you can bet I'd be doing a lot more of things that H liked and poor'n sugar all over H.
Well, there is a thread about givers and takers. And between 2001 and 2003 I became a taker and threw my giver in a closet. No wonder my H had an A! Now I know! And I hope I get a chance to make things right again! Why did I become a taker? Well, I'm stupid I started listening to a few so called friends, and with their help, it became all about me. It was like throwing my H out the door. If you want a great R with your S and you love them, it's about making THEM happy. In return, they will try to make you happy. So what does this add up to? 2 people making each other happy! I'd rather be happy with my S then alone trying to make me happy. It sure is more fun! M is about sharing, being partners and yes! Making each other happy. We have to give to get anything back. I know you are out there saying "only you can make you happy", I've said this many times myself. But there is another saying, "it's in the giving, not the receiving" Giving will make you happier! I notice that when I compliment H and I'm more loving to him, show him my respect. I get a lot more in return. So I believe in giving, because I get more back than I need! I also like the saying,"ask and you will receive".
No wonder my H had an A! 
Now I know! 
And I hope I get a chance to make things right again! 
