Don't know where to post this.

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Hi, I only skimmed through the later part of your thread, and also while I would not presume to speak for Gucci, I think his point covers the fact that your "availability" is a problem. Why the heck should she ever be "ready" when she can have the best of all worlds?

You would still not be living the fact (and yes it has to be a fact) that you can be without her.

And really, while it is just my personal view, I think you should stop giving yourself the excuse that it is love for your sons and her that is stopping you. If it comes to the crunch, everyone will survive. It's fear and being entrenched in the comfort zone that's stopping you. Whether to stay in that zone is your choice.

Best wishes in any case.