I have already been snooping to the extent that I can. Made copies to my e-mail of his page where he is making sexual headlines to her and where she commented " I miss you my love". I am going to use the 7 day free trial of webwatcher this week when I get home because it not only logs key strokes but takes screenshots every few seconds and records myspace, facebook, and other chats. Also you can block web pages. I will definitely be snooping. You never know maybe this can work to my advantage in more than one way...In DR doesn't Michele say to find out what OP is doing and do it better? DO you think doing that before I bust the affair would help?