Have been reading along. I have some things in common with you. First a sweet proprioceptive sensory seeking boy who can get pretty wild-hehe. He is 7, ironically my cutie 3 year old boy is the exact opposite and freaks over the littlest things- a hair touching him, his shirt tag, food textures, etc. He had some health issues which are doing much better with a new treatment plan from a specialist but I still am having some bad nights. I know you've read the Out of Sync child, right? I mean that's the bible for kids like this.
We did send our son to school, was worried but the district has been wonderful. I think with his energy level and need for action school has worked. They are willing to do anything necessary like fidget toys, bands on the chair etc. I just know that he is actually happier in school that he was at home. I just couldn't entertain him enough and he loves seeing all his friends every day. I also needed it b/c I was exhausted with the 2 of them.
I felt so trapped at home with constant sick kids and working from home, I hated it. I did join some meetup mom's groups. I still am trapped at home a lot but at least there are a million activities I can sign up for, I usually quite often end up canceling but it's not a big deal. They also have a message board so you can have some virtual socialization.
I believe you stated you are from Canada and I know that they have meetups also.
I get how hard it is to socialize with 2 young kids and I still have silly goals like not skipping a day for showering or actually blow drying my hair instead of letting it air dry. Lame, I know but the cleaning and tending to the kids and day to day activities like haircuts, Christmas shopping, doctor visits- I see how it sucks the energy out of a mom. That is why I am always impressed when someone has several kids.
Anyhow, good luck with things. My hubby and I had many rough years and he decided on an in-house separation that lasted 14 months and now we are piecing. I think stress and our poor communication skills and kids health issues (autoimmune stuff and genetic disorder) really brought out the worst in us. We have been a couple for many years previously and while we did fight some, after kids things went to hell pretty quickly. The stress of being parents is what I think really strained the marriage. Oh yeah, our finances are pretty tight too but nothing like the situation you are dealing with. It's an additional strain though.
Stay strong, I wish you luck with everything
Last edited by june72; 01/21/1003:29 AM.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
