When you are in contact with OM I cannot trust you. (Leave him out of it altogether IMO.) Even on-again, off-again contact is unacceptable and disrespectful. I will not let you lie to me or keep contacting him and leading me on. It is unhealthy and I am not going to put up with it anymore.
You must be willing to cut off ALL contact with him and avoid contact with him, even in public places. I demand full transparency. That means no secrets whatsoever; absolute access to your communications and whereabouts.
This is the only way we can begin to heal our marriage. I will not share you, and if you cannot accept that I am willing to move on with my life without you.
The thing is, you have to mean it. And therein lies the problem...at least for me. The words sound great! But when push comes to shove, you have to be willing to hurt now (and I bet money it does hurt unimaginably) to be happier, healthier, and stronger as you move forward.
Hope this helps, Michael. And I wish you strength and courage in laying down this boundary.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
