Another next step taken and conquered:

One of the things X said the Night of the Bad Bill Paying ('you won! I wanted to be in the house!) was wondering why I would want to be in the house.

It is big, it is old, we have 2 tenants--lots of stuff to deal with. And he has carpentry, heating, plumbing skills.

Well, today the tenant in the other half of the house calls: no heat!

Fortunately work was such that I could drive right to the house.

Went down the scary, spidery, basement. Cleared away the spiderwebs from the boiler; followed the RESET directions. Didn't work.

Called the heating guy. He came right over. Fixed this and fixed that. Definately things that X would have had to call the pros in for.

Of course heating guy (who has known us for years) says, oh, is X out of town?

"X is with his new girlfriend. He decided in August that he wanted a younger woman. So off he went."

"oh. er, ummm, sorry to hear that."

"S'ok. Be sure to address the bill in my name so it comes to t his house."

Heat works. Billing arranged. Another member of the community, whom X respects, now knows what sort of guy X really is.

All within 2 hours.

Take that!


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process