Well, I've been reading Not Just Friends and there's a chapter that I just got done reading that states that it's important for the spouse that betrayed the other to come clean regarding their affair. Well, I don't think my wife has come clean about her affair(s). She initially told me that she had slept with 4 men and was in love with one. Next, a few months later it was 2 men and when I asked why she had said 4 men before, her response was I just wanted to hurt you and finally, it went to I just slept with one man.

So, I question if I will ever know the truth or if she will ever realize what she has done by changing her story this way. It will be difficult for me to believe her unless there is a no kidding full disclosure of what happened and the names of the other men. I don't think that's unrealistic. I venture to say that she will not do this.

She is supposed to go to counseling tomorrow. Whether she has signed up or not, I don't know as she has not indicated to me one way or another. If she hasn't been truthful with me, will she act in the same manner toward the counselor?

Well, it's been almost a year now and I've come a long way emotionally. I still have my bad days though--usually when my daughter is over at her mom's as I have more time to think. Every time I feel this way I try to find something to do to stay busy and it usually helps.

So, we'll see what tomorrow brings.


M-41
ex-W-40
Together--17 years
SS-20
D-14
Bomb--2 Feb 09
WAW--6 Feb 09
Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!!
ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!!
Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!