Moving back in

[DDogs]

UPDATE:

We told the kids tonite. (Today, Realtor placed signs and lock box on the front of the home.) We all sat down for dinner tonite, ate, visited and near the end, I looked at W and said, "W is there something you'd like to tell the kids?".. W looks at me and says, "No, like what?"

I reply, "like who you've seen and what you've started?".. W looks a bit anxious and says, "kids your father has put the house up for sale and we will be moving",," Kids, you father and I are getting a divorce." I remind her about her actions and she says, " I have a lawyer and we're getting a divorce."

I correct her and I add, "kids, you mom wants a divorce from your dad, she has seen a lawyer and has started the legal process of divorce." then silence.....

I tell the kids,"your mom wants the divorce from dad, I don't believe this is the way to handle this and would prefer other options, but this is what your mom has chosen. I'm obligated to legally respond now." more silence...

I ask the kids if they have any questions and the kids look at W and say, "where are we going to live?"

W says,, "we don't know that yet",, silence...

I tell them, "I love you all very much, I'm still your dad and that won't change...I am still here for you with what ever I can do for you..."

more silence,, then the W picks up the conversation, "so, kids how was school today?" WTF... kids get the news, W has no follow up and now she is steering the conversation around small talk about everyones day?

The kids are awkwardly nervous and start coming out with all different questions about their school day in an obvious way to comfort W because they can sense the tension in the room....

I again tell the kids, if they have any question they can come to me any time and I'll answer what I can truthfully.

W treated this very mechanically, no follow up with the kids, no reassurance,, nothing... The kids got up from the table and began doing their own things... I believe they are still processing all of this.... My S15 (who I told yesterday) was very quiet and D12 was watery eyed but did not cry, the youngest just went on business as normal.... This will be a long night and week...