Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[dday101798]

Well, I've said what I need to for now.

Let her be. In your summary you say she already felt smothered once.

Go about your business and QUIT being readily available for her. Give her a dose of the reality she thinks she wants. Don't answer the phone. Don't return calls or messages. If it's something that must absolutely be discussed, stall, wait it out a while, then return the call.

Maybe set up a time to remove your items at a time she won't be there.

The more away time the better.

In reading your summary, I think you extended the begging and pleading stage for too long. She knows D is not what you want and she will play upon that til the bitter end.

No, it isn't easy to stop dwelling on it, but you have to.

If being at her sister's gets uncomfortable, ie all she'll talk about is W, respectfuly ask that you not discuss it. If it continues, something came up and you gotta go.

Seperate yourself as far as possible and go about your own business.

Once your ship has set sail, and left behind your W's, just sitting there in the middle of the sea with no navigation, she'll decide which way to go.