Thanks CB...I will definitely keep all these things in mind...I know she is upset about me coming home because it interrupts her cycle of freedom with this guy. She has already told me she wants to have a talk when I get back because we are supposed to be separated but she does not want to do it over the phone because she does not feel it is good for communication about these things. To be honest with you though. I am not going to live with someone else and pay bills for two places...I deserve better than that and I am not going to be a victim to that extent. I am doing things different when she speaks...I am listening, validating, and repeating to make sure I know where she is coming from...Also I am being encouraging and supportive of her learning how to overcome her driving anxiety. She told me today she does not know what happened to the old me but she does not want him back but that she does not know what to do with the me now...I guess that is a good sign...would most likely be a really good one without OM in the picture...yeah she is going to FLIP and run...I plan on having a talk with her dad though when this happens so he knows everything...I will make sure I have proof first...Thing is she says the only person she really respects is the OM. She has surrounded herself with people who tell her what she wants to hear.
