Don't know where to post this.

[MichelleLT]

It's easy to take for granted the constants in our life. I think most of us were guilty of that as LBSs.

The way you phrase your boundary in this last post is better.

That has to be how you think about the situation though. From a perspective of only having control over you, cuz you are the only one you have any control over.

You are hoping that these changes will have a positive impact on her, and that's fine. But always be careful not to forget that you can't control her actions. She makes her choices, and you make yours.

And if you make good choices, you will have no regrets about how you handled this regardless of the outcome.

And regardless of the outcome, you will be fine. You will be a better person for your struggle.