Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

Thank you Michelle. I understand. She is not a dog to be trained but she is acting like a child.

The boundary of not touching her is for me. If I did touch her when she has seen OM I would be disgusted and begin to hate myself for doing so. That would be reflected in the way that I treat her. She is confused and afraid and needs to be shown love and for me to touch her prematurely I know that the resentment in me would cause me to treat he like dirt again.

The cooling off period is so that I treat her well again.

Treating her well really is a 180 for me so I am trying to continue it and she is responding favorably at the moment.

I have to withhold my affections for a period of time after she has seen OM to show my own self respect and to not allow my resentment to grow. If I touched her right away I would feel it was because I was forced not because I wanted to.