Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[brknheart]

One other thing. I told her from the beginning that I will be there for her until the papers are signed. She knows that I never wanted a D. Some books recommended that you agree with them and say "you are right, we should get a D". Should that be my way of thinking now, "act" like I dont care anymore? I didnt give her any fuss yesterday, just "ok".

See, I cant stop dwelling on it... Its like an infection that gets better, then flares up again...

SITCH SUMMARY: 01/20/2010
To sum up my sitch, W moved out 4 mths ago said she wants a D, I tried to get her back for 1.5 mths, went dark for 1.5 mths, wife came over to talk early Dec, we started doing things together and spent the night at her place several times, wife felt like things were going to fast/smothered she wanted to take it slow, wife backed off and said she couldnt do this, 2 days later wife said she didnt want a D right now and put things on hold, she wants to move back in the house and I move out so she can have space and get a clear mind in a comfortable environment, this was the only thing she could give me other than D, i moved out 4 weeks ago, we txt and talked a couple of days the first week, had a talk on the second week that upset her because we started talking R talk, again. She said she didnt want to talk unless it was business (bills, etc). We didnt talk for 2 weeks until yesterday when I came back from vacation. She asked about paying a bill then asked when I could move my things out of the house. I asked if she wanted a D, she said yes. I said ok. I didnt understand what last month was about, asked her. She said she thought we could work on things. I asked what made her change her mind, she didnt know, would have to get back with me.