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[Lucky11too]

I know it's tough and you say there is no hope but there always hope somewhere. In some ways, you are just like me a couple of months ago with an H that desperately needed mental help but is too stubborn to actually get it. But some how, here we are, with H taking his supplements and finally seeing a therapist! Still as we know, no guarentees with this, but still hope. Just wanted to encourage you to encourage him when the opportunity presents itself to get the help he needs (as well as continue to encourage his parents and friends). I believe he will have to figure it out himself, but if enough people say it, hopefully it will be enough to plant the seed. You just never know the impact you might have. Soemtimes I wonder if God put me and H together all those years ago b/c he knew I was the only one that could help him help himself. I don't know, but I ponder that sometimes, especially when things aren't going as planned and I wonder what our purpose for all this pain is.

Regarding the texts, those sounded like good responses. They were matter of fact without being overly mean or on the opposite, too overly friendly. Like you said, you can't just pretend that the last two weeks (or years) didn't happen, so there's no point in faking it. What's his angle? Good question? If I had to make a guess, it's probably an attempt to keep the connection without having to make a connection. He doesn't want to loose you all together so it's like his way of holding on. It's hard to know what to do with that b/c in order to work on things, you have to have the communication, but his current actions are just so frustrating that you don't want to communicate with him. I guess just play it by ear. You keep on living the good life without him and if you feel up to responding or initiating something, then you do it, but don't let his actions drag you down. I know you're having a down moment right now (which is completely understandable esp when you're dealing with a sick S and a sick u!), but don't let it keep you down. You'll see the sun shining again soon.