Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

R22 and Lotus - thanks every bit helps.
She is not in counselling. MC nor IC right now (neither of us are). I brought it up right after the bomb was dropped, suggested MC, she wouldn't even consider it.

I am not worried about a fight. These discussions for us won't lead to a fight. We don't fight very often.

I have a bright future but at this point not one i want. Among other things, I let my work take a backseat to W and i don't want to do that again. W has a good future too, maybe not as bright as mine but very respectable. For the longest time, she used to dream and talk about how she would stop working and follow me around on this bright path, but no more, she is now worried about her own career because she had decided to leave me.

Any other thoughts? Do I mention MC or no? Do I offer to myself go to IC? Do I use words like "I am not going to beg you to work on reconciling, you have to make up your own mind"...that actually right now seems like a decent phrase to use.

Thank you for talking to me, my world just got rocked today.