It's really hard when H moves stuff out of our home.
I am sorry you have to deal with this. HUGS
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He's been taking his books away box by box
Ask him to take ALL of HIS stuff.
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and today he asked to take 2 of our tall bookshelves.
Set a boundary.
"I have decided that all of the family items are to stay in the house. If you need bookshelves for your personal stuff, you are free to go buy some that you like with YOUR spare money."
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The other part of me is filled with horror at what this is doing to our children. It stabs me through the heart to see their distress, distress that they don't have the words to express. H is protecting himself from consciously recognizing what this is doing to them. As imperfect as our M is, being an intact family is what's best for our children, esp. at their current stages. The mama bear part of me would do anything to make this M work.
This is the hardest part of this. The kids. Keep loving them. They need you right now.
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I'm struggling with the concept of GAL. I already have a life! GAL = do things that you enjoy and make you happy. The idea is to focus your energy on your happiness. Each of our GAL is unique. My GAL was focused on things that kept the R out of my head.
[quote] I'd love to go out running or cross-country skiing tomorrow when I have some child-free time, but instead I'm planning to earn some money to pay off my giant credit card balance that came from H's business follies.
Running is for you. And yes, it is important to addresses the credit card. Why is it not his responsibility?
Stay strong sweeite. HUGUS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
