Your H is welcome to remove things from the home that belong to him. If he is asking to remove items that are jointly owned you do have the option of setting a boundary.
Yes. I don't care about the bookshelves so I let them go. I also let go of an armchair that matches one that's here, but I basically don't want to give him an excuse to spend one penny on buying stuff for his apartment... because that's less money to repay our debts and pay for interventions that our son needs.
Originally Posted By: CityGirl
Nobody is saying what you do in your life is not valuable or important! What we are saying is EVERYBODY needs *something* that is just for the. If you only have 3 min. per day then use those precious three minutes just for you. No excuses!
Yeah, I understand that. Just trying to sort it out in my head because I've actually been trying to GAL for about 6 months and renew myself...and I've been struggling with the process.
Originally Posted By: avermont
GAL'ing for you might me expanding your social/activities beyond the household/children, in so far as your schedule/finances allow. Even joining an on-line group of some sort--Scrabble? Mah-jong? gets you connected to new/other people and is a new thing for your brain and heart to feel and do.
Does meditation count as GAL? It's something I'd like to do regularly: it would be for me, it's free, and I have time to do a bit every day. What about doing The Work? Would that be GAL? One GAL idea I had was organizing a games night with some other parents who are neighbours (after kids' bedtimes). Not totally my thing, but it could be diverting.
Mostly what I feel like doing is watching DVDs by myself and licking my wounds.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
