I have been on a work trip for the past couple of days. I am really looking forward to our next therapy session next week. Because of a work-related event this weekend, my wife and I are taking off on a trip and will be staying at a hotel this weekend.
I have been reading up on sensate focus exercises, reflexology, and couples massage. I hope to make the sensate focus exercises really memorable for my wife, even if they are not initially sexual. If my wife procrastinates on the sensate focus exercises, then I will suggest we do them while we are at the hotel this weekend.
I have backed off of being the person doing the "pushing" in trying to fix the relationship.
I have now turned that over to the two therapists.
I almost feel sorry for my wife, in that she has an individual sex therapist and we have a couples/relationship concelor who is actually a noted sex therapist and focuses on sex therapy with couples. So my wife is being professionally challenged regarding her negative attitudes toward sex on both an individual basis and a group basis. If she can hang in their, then I really do expect there to be serious change for the better.
As I said, still no sex or serious touching from my wife, but I have high hopes for that to change in the not too distant future. I need to re-read No More Mr. Nice Guy and remain a little bit aloof and definately not needy for sex or touch (even though I am.)
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
