Anyone out there start dating other people yet?

[MrBond]

"you are advising to spend time figuring out what went wrong instead of moving onward with ones life?"

hell no. Of course the LBS isn't entirely at fault. And let's face it, not everyone's sitch involved their S's being with someone else. It's a matter of figuring out what went wrong (on both sides), then figuring out what you really want in a R. And then moving on.

I just think getting someone new for the sake of just getting someone isn't fair to the new person. You're going to have alot of baggage that you're going to drag into the next R if things aren't sorted out in your head first.

Let's put it this way. If our S's cheated on us, we are going to carry that hatred/fear/pessimism (whatever) into our next R. It's just the way it is. We would wonder if what happened in our M is going to repeat in the next R even on an unconscience level. So my point is get yourself knowing what you want and put the last R to rest before getting into a new one.

Of course, that's just my 2 cents.