I have a WAW. I have read, and posted on these boards. Can anyone recommend a good book for a WAW to read that would be useful, or am I wasting my time? I have read most of Michele's books and understand not to share with my wife DR. I think she would give me a second chance if she could find a way to get the "love" back. Anyone have any advice on any books that may be helpful?
Thanks in advance
Me 49/Her 44 One son 13 M 20yrs ILYBINILWY 10/15/09 Bomb 11/27/09
New here myself TD, this is a good place to be. You will get lots of help.
General opinion here is that you can't be giving WAW anything like that, it is seen by them as weak and pursuing. It's like, "just read this and you'll realize how stupid you were leaving me".
It's not what they want to hear.
Having said that, I'm currently reading the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and finding it fantastic. Yeah IF I asked my WAW to read it, I'm sure she would find lots in it that would strike a chord with her about our R.
But I'm listening to the advice of the people here who have Been there, Done that.
Stay Strong.
H: 44 W: 42 Married: 23 years Bomb: 16/07/2009 PA Confirmed: 16/01/2010 Over it & working on ME: Feb'ish 2010
TD, When I was walking away, I wouldn't have read a thing my H offered me. Anything he would have given me at that time would have been viewed by me as an effort to convince me something was wrong with me and what I was doing. And I wasn't having any of that.
fyi. Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement