No one is taking sides or taking up for anyone. However, sometimes outsiders can see the other options more clearly than you might. Try to give you perspective. Right now, yes maybe to you she seems like a monster in many ways. But she too has her side, her story, her feelings and she is trying to find her solution just like you are trying to find yours
Cat-- I do not think she is a monster. In fact I see exactly how we got to where we are. I feel like I see at least partially how responsible I am for it. I am sympathetic to what she is going through. what is hard is I don't really know what she is going through.. I can only speculate.
ok so I'm going to go and hit some golf balls.
thank you all for your posts. I will think about everything you have said. all very very good points. and perhaps much better advice than "friends and family" are giving me...
