Thank you for sharing this. Our H's blame attitudes are very similar. Except mine says he's not blaming because he has realized it is wrong to blame and he wants me not to. Then he only owns up to a few things out loud and goes on to point out long long lists of all my flaws as if two people did not participate in certain past interactions. I am wondering if I will always have to shoulder the burden of the blame and just accept that. There seems to be no way to go back in time and accurately determine blame percentages. Each person can just own up to negative or unhelpful behaviors and seek to change them today.
