Your current approach is certainly a vast improvement over what you were doing. But this:
LHS wrote: "I told her that I could not stop her from filing and if that is what she had to to so be it. I told her that I did not intend on sharing her and that I would not wait forever for her, the day is fast approaching when I will begin dating."
is not the same things as this:
gucci wrote: "You will NOT stop her from leaving. She is totally free to go and as a matter of fact you think that she SHOULD go because you just will not share a woman you have a committment with, with ANY man. Firmly, matter of factly, and confident."
In what way are you refusing to enable her in the affair? She still lives in the house with the kids. You still go over and spend family time together and cuddle and kiss her if she initiates it and hold her while she cries. You just won't have sex with her. Well at least she has OM for that. Meanwhile, you live in an apartment and go without sex. What's wrong with this picture?
If she had to choose, I think she'd choose you, but right now she has the best of both worlds.
