Thanks H4L I was a bit wobbly over the last few days, but have pulled my socks up again. H has gone back to his pad till next Wednesday, but he said some really sweet things about missing me and being back again soon so has given me a bit of consolation. Will be back to write some more later just off for a walk to get some much needed fresh air.
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
I know H4L I thought I'd never hear him say things like that again. It started off with him reminding me of our usual nine oclock cuddle time as I went off to do something, just in passing he said "im stopping this in a minute as its nearly nine oclock" and then just as we went off to bed I laughed and said "I dont know how you are gonna managed without me for eight days" he replied very quietly "neither do I" and that followed with a very impromptu ILY made my evening and has lifted my confidence in us getting somewhere no end!
No doubt its not going to be easy us being together all the time but we shall just take each day as it comes and be grateful that we are together after a really horrible six months apart!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
That is great, it is so good to read some success stories here...
ILY - that would carry most of us on these boards for a long time...
So happy for you
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Thank you so much everyone, it is good to feel like we are getting some where, I miss him this week but I still have a life and I have gained so much from this experience that have made me grow as a person, sorry to sound twee but its so true
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
H is back in his pad again for the last time! He will be home on Wednesday for good. So last night after he phoned me we ended up chatting on Msn, I happen to say that a ex DB mate of mine hadnt been in touch of some time and I was getting worried about her, she just wasnt coming to terms with him leaving. My H said that he thought it would get better with time, I said I probably better not answer that as he wouldnt like the answer, but he said to go ahead, so I did, and told him that only a WAS could say something like that and believe it to be true, I never would have stopped loving him but if he had pursued a D I would never have been able to be friends with him. He said he understood that!
The conversation continued and he said he found it hard that I thought so bad of him at times, I said that I never thought he was doing anything just feared he was but a little voice in the back of my head told me he wouldnt, never added I was never 100% but he seemed to feel better that my instinct that he was a good man stayed in play!
I dunno are we getting down to some of the sticky questions, I do still have a lot of hurt and anger lurking certainly the fact he has crushed my true love for him and now its a different love, also that he dumped me with only a thought for himself, he has said some lovely things over the last few days so Im hanging on to those for the time being, I do sense he is trying and like Rocked's thread title Im taking one day at a time. The financial worries are getting worse if only that could be lessened I'd maybe feel we were getting back on track again?
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
I think there is lots of reason to be optimistic about your sitch! It does sound like you are getting back on track, but it is a difficult, painful process with so many ups and downs. And, believe me, I know how the financial pressures and worries add to it and make it harder.
But... truly, it is one day at a time. You do what you can for today. You keep loving yourself, moving forward with him, communicating as openly and honestly as you can, focus on the positives, deal with the negatives... and onwards you go.
