Well then maybe my SO was "Cake Eating" yesterday with the whole lunch thing. She may have used it to not only get me to take our daughter back to our home instead of her doing it, but also to pump out of me any personal information of what I've been up to and whatnot that she hasnt privy to by not living at home anymore.
I say that now because this morning when she came to pick up our daughter, while the conversation we had was pleasant and friendly, she didnt wave to me like she did yesterday, and she had two opportunities to do so.
I'm having extreme difficulty "detaching" and strictly adhering to "Limited Contact" strategies. It seems no matter what she says or does, I'm willing to come to her rescue and/or let her bend my ear about stuff...to the point where others have called me a doormat and a crutch for my SO.
While I rarely call or messsage her, she still calls and messages me whenever she feels like it, and while most of the time its strictly about our daughter, sometimes it isnt. People have told me that even the calls about our daughter, when in excess, are a way to ger her "me" fix and its holding both of us back.
What do you guys think? Was I being used yesterday? How do I detach and become less emotionally available to her? How do I ignore her calls and messages without seeming rude?
I've tried to in the past few weeks...I've tried to be vague about my activites and miss some of her calls...but she gets so angry and jumps to the conclusoin that if I'm not telling her whats going on then I must be trying to do something behind her back to screw her over (like talking to a lawyer about custody of our daughter or something...which wasnt even in my mind).
