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I have to agree, even a woman (no offense) eventually has to get some every now and then, it is hormonal, it is nature at its highest degree.

My question is, has this been discussed with your wife at all.

If the separation is being done stragically to get that spark back, I understand.

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This cycle continues to go round and round and round. And yes Mike I believe I have ran out of patience. I have tried to be understanding and accepting but sometimes I feel that deep down this is what she wants and maybe what she wanted all along for me to leave. For me to make the decision and take the guilt of breaking us up off of her. It may just be my heartbreak talking but I don't think I am totally off base here.

Something needs to change. Doing the same thing over and over is not working for me and I have to stop and take care of me.


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Originally Posted By: dburt

My question is, has this been discussed with your wife at all.

If the separation is being done stragically to get that spark back, I understand.

Burt


You talking about the seperation? Yes we are in the begining stages of that. Alot of details to work out first.

Have I thought this might cause a sprark in her , yes, I would be lying if I had not but its not why I am doing this. I truely believe that with me continuing to live in the same house with her and sleeping in the same bed with her its going to produce more of the same. Nothing, and that is not acceptable to me any more.


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Meaning she is not in love with me at all.


so she chooses not to love you

I mean we all know that that "spark" we feel when we first meet "the one" is not something that just naturally lasts. You have to continually feed that...so she chooses not to feed that spark any more...

well then...looks like you have no other options if she is fine physically.....

You need to do what you feel you need to do...I would caution you against the following

some people hold on forever...some here hold on forever...at some point you must move forward...3 years is a long time..I admire you for that...

but..LOL...not too many here are gonna convince me that a lot of these issues in some of these 40 something women..are not hormonal...JMHO..

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Your right she chooses not to have feelings for me. Why? I do not know don't think she really knows. But I have stuck it out a long time as you know, much longer than I thought I would.

This time alone may give me the chance to explore my feeling and maybe they are not as strong for her as I think they are. It may just be that we have been together for 22 years and it is a comfort thing for me. Maybe I'm a little scared of being alone after all this time. I'm not sure but I guess I will find out and I need to use this time to really do some hard looking at what I want and what I need and go from there.

This song keeps going through my head, "I poured it on and I poured it out. I tried to show you just how much I care. I'm tired of word and I'm to horse to shout but you've been cold to me so long I'm crying icicles instead of tears."

It sums up where I am. I'm tired of fighting for my M alone. I just don't seem to have it in me anymore.


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well it sucks Tim....22 years wow...

I guess the ones who can put their own chitt aside are the ones who last forever..the ones who can't...well, they're f**kin' selfish in my opinion...

you'll be good..I have confidence that you will..

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I hope your right Mike,

My insides are in notts right now. Trying to concentrate on work. Not doing a very good job at it though.


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Originally Posted By: Distressed67
It may just be that we have been together for 22 years and it is a comfort thing for me. Maybe I'm a little scared of being alone after all this time.


No doubt, that's a part of it. 22 years ia long time, Distressed.

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My insides are in notts right now


well...no reason for knots yet...IMO..you'r just spearating..I'm actually wondering how separated you'll actually be if she really truly enjoys you around like she says she does..

an old cold bed may do her wonders..

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My insides are in notts right now


well...no reason for knots yet...IMO..you'r just spearating..


Yea just seperating but still a very big step for me.


Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee

I'm actually wondering how separated you'll actually be if she really truly enjoys you around like she says she does..



I guess that's the right question, how much does she like me being around? Only the Shadow knows.

I'm new to this stuff not sure how much communication we should have? Been looking at articals on the internet trying to get an idea how to set this all up and make sure everything is taken care up finacially and logistically for the kids.


Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee

an old cold bed may do her wonders..


I love you Mike, you always make me laugh. smile


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