Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[brknheart]

Friend or no friend, I'd be wary of meeting her 1 on 1. There's nothing for you in it. I would be even more wary of talking to her about your W.

Your situation is much more optimistic than most of posters here. You and your W are talking and she is 50% sure of reconciliation. I second taking it one day at a time suggestion.

Quick post about that friend. We talked last night, she txt me saying my W told her she told me it was over, the friend felt bad and said to call if I wanted to talk. What the hell. To sum up the conversation, she thinks I am better off without my W, that my W is doing the wrong thing and she wouldnt be surprised a year from now my W tells her this. She gave me many examples of the warped/crazy comments/thoughts my W has and I have seen/heard this also from my W. She also said that my W is STILL complaining about whos fault everything is, bringing up things that upset her that I did over the years (small things that shouldnt be a big deal). My W also exaggerates these things to make me look like a evil person, the worst H in the world. Last, the friend told me that my W is so unstable that she could tell me next week she wants to work on the M. Others have said the same thing and if we didnt get back together my W would do this again and again.

The way my W has been treating me and this situation the past month shows me that she really doesnt care anymore, doesnt care about me, the M, or any type of R with me. Theres no telling what she is telling the circle of friends that we hung out with (which I havent been around in over a month). Some of these people avoid talking with me, others claim they are "neutral". I know some of these friends know the truth and are afraid to confront her about it, maybe they have and my W got upset. I also feel my W may have clouded her own mind with her lies and convinced herself that Im really the evil guy she made me out to be. I guess if you say something enough, it becomes true. Another thing I wonder is if she complained about me so much that she feels she cant go back, it would make her look like a fool.

So, I think im finished venting. Is this what I want? No. Can I do anything else? Yes. I can move on, move my stuff out of the house, separate the property, meet with the mediator and sign the papers. This was my plan last month before my W came back. I gave her the "space". I gave her everything she wanted. I would like to confront her with a list of things Ive done for HER over the course of our M and separation. Is it even worth my time? Probably not...

Did I follow all the DB rules, maybe not but I feel I may have really never had a "real" chance...

quick question: Has anyone heard of someone flip flopping this much? I feel like my W will do this again before the D is final.