I totally agree...and what you wrote helped me 'get it'.
For example, over here in the US, there was a magazine cover with a huge closeup of Elin Woods with a distraught look on her face and the line underneath said something about "Elin's humiliation, etc etc"
Then I read somewhere, a reporter criticizing the headline. He said, "Why does everyone talk about HER humiliation?" She did not have these affairs, why do we all assume she should be humiliated? HE should be humiliated for what he has done...
And I like what you said about, you choose to be faithful and committed, you have to let him make his own choice but to be fair he must tell you if his decision ever changes...haven't heard it put like that before.
