Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[Cie la vie]

MHL,

I am not complaining but how can a mother detatch from her children like that??

Unbelievable! I can't answer that question. Although my W has clearly lost her focus on our children she hasn't gone this far off the ranch yet. My W will be in her new apt. this weekend and my intention is to avoid contact with her as much as possible so I won't have a whole lot of additional information on her new life that she is eager to pursue.

I believe you are right when you suggested she will likely increase her pursuit of OM now that she is clear of me. This concerns me only on how it could affect the kids but I will only know if they can express it to me which at their age is unlikely.

I think the separation agreement will be a wake up call. for her.

Maybe. Was your W a responsible mother prior to her WAW/MLC status? I thought when I started to push the D along that my W might be shocked into an awakened state but that didn't happen. I initially thought that her moving out would possibly give her an opportunity to see that keeping the family whole is the right thing to do. I now think that I am kidding myself.

There are too many indicators that she is not looking back. Who really knows however. I just plan on continuing to improve myself and be there for the kids. Where her life takes her is in her hands and I just can't concern myself with it any longer other than how her decisions affect the kids.

I'll continue to follow you sitch. Hang in there.