Quote: During our "chat" I got angry and yelled at him about his failure to make good on his word to meet certain 'needs' that I have. It felt good to 'yell' at him instead of mousing my way thru yet another seemingly endless, "don't you get it" talk.
Well, its a 180 that broke a cycle, isn't it? ... and a little yelling once in a while can be very effective in getting their attention ... but don't let it turn into a repeating pattern that starts to push him away. That is what is meant by "What works is always a moving target."
Quote: I will be watching him like a hawk to see if ANY of my requests are actually met.
I will say that when I got home from work Tues. evening that I noticed that he's been reading Men are From Mars, Women from Venus....of course THAT'S NOT the book I asked him to read (I asked him to read The 5 LL), but at least he's reading something.
Keep watching with a beginner's mind tho. Don't observe only thru your filters of interpretation. Watch not only for what he does thru your LL's, but what you also get thru his ... those are just as valid and if you only accept what you interpret thru your LL, then can backlash into a from of control, like your mentioning of the book he is reading.
Ya know, reading Mars/Venus first may not be so bad. This way, when he goes to read 5LL's, he can better interpret the Venusian’s version of a language vs. the Martian's.
... and a little yelling once in a while can be very effective in getting their attention ... but don't let it turn into a repeating pattern that starts to push him away. That is what is meant by "What works is always a moving target."
