I don't think anybody was suggesting K lie to his W about his job situation. I *think* (?) the suggestions were for K to handle this big life issue on his own w/o his W UNLESS he is unable to meet the obligations he has with finances/custody.
Just a month ago K was calling his W asking how to contact roadside service for the car. This is a big 180 for him and that is a good thing! And it *is* for HIM, not his W.
There is all kinds of advice on this site and that is a blessing. I think in some ways we can all relate to one another. That being said EVERYBODY here has different circumstances. We ALL want to really follow the advice of people who are in a better place than us and we certainly can learn some great stuff even if it doesn't apply to our lives directly. I am sure it is very easy for somebody with a very high income, considerable assets (this is a generic person, btw, not a real person!) and a very stable financial situation to suggest how to handle finances during a divorce. And that is great, we can all learn! But if the person following the advice to a "t" doesn't have high income, assets and all the same particulars most of it is just theory (and maybe a GREAT theory) but not feasible for real life.
