Thanks WDID...Let me give you some more background so you may be able to have a little more input...She has been "friends" with this guy for a while online and he came in after she started confiding in him. Of course she says he says all the right things and she never has to say anything he just knows... Also she does not believe in God though her parents do...I do as well but being Native American I believe a little differently so unfortunately church pressure is out. She says that she is attracted to him but does not love him the way she loves me but behind my back it is different. Her mom knows she is talking to someone but she also told her mom it is going nowhere because her mom became angry. Her Dad does not know. Though if he did I have a feeling he would support me because he was so adamant about my wife working this out that he paid our rent and said for her to come back here. That is when she said she would give it six months to see if I changed but no to hold my breath..I know the conversations and web chats have gotten sexual in nature as well though I can't really prove it...this is mainly form the little intel I have gathered...I will have a key logger this weekend. As far as mutual friends she has stated she is ready to let them all go because she has nothing in common with them and that they do not care about her which is the furthest thing from the truth but they also would not get involved. I know she is FOGGED right now. Here is the thing. How do you get through to her that she is having an affair when she is insistent that she is not because she does not consider us married...how do you stand against that? Also how long do I gather intel...I know i will have what I need within three days of having the key logger. I work 6 on and 6 off and have to stay overnight at my job because of the nature of my work. So I really only have around two weeks to create that atmosphere...Is this possible?
