Ok now I am really confused...She called twice...I did not pick up but waited to call her when I was ready...When we spoke she brought up the e-mail and explained that the reason she was upset is because she feels I pursue those friendships and she feels they do not care about her. She also told me some things she would like for me to say when I do not want to discuss something with her because she gets angry if I give her a vague answer which really has been one of my problems in the past. She then said she is ok with being "roommates" until the lease is up in July as long as we do not go through the big issues we had when she said she wanted to separate or divroce ( this was the usual crying, begging, I don't want to go on crap that I really am over). After that she told me that she really doers not know what to think about me and that she doesn't know me anymore...She said she is uncomfortable if I speak to any females online even mutual friends and that to her it appears as if I am being a hypocrite and she wants consistency in EVERYTHING. Then she said even though I do not know you I do not want the old you back and that she just does not know how to go about relating to me or getting to know me because apparently I am not the person she thought I was. She then said she would be watching me to see if anything REALLY changed but even that probably will not change her mind because of her current resentments toward me and her feelings for OM.
When she spoke I just listened to her, validated her feelings, and told her I am having to be me. I then told her I respect her thoughts and her feelings and we would discuss our boundaries after I am home and she said ok. Then she tried to draw me into a conversation about our fitness programs...Shortly after this point I ended the conversation telling her I had to work and thanked her for her thoughts and time ( this really threw her for a loop)
So I guess please read over the last few posts and let me know what you think and any input or advice...
