OW broke up with XH, now what??

[Augtan]

Talked to XH last night (he asked to talk to me). He wanted to know, among other things, about the kids spring break. The kids and I are planning a trip to Fla. to look at colleges for D17, I had planned at the right time to invite XH to come with us, but was waiting. I told him our plan and said "I planned to stop in Atlanta anyway, if you would like to come with us you are more than welcome." He said he would like to come and we can work out the details!! I didn't act a bit excited, just normal. I then started talking about my work and he rudely cut me off, but I just said "ok, well I'll let you go, have a good night" He said "ok, send me an email with the details, good night, bye" very nicely.

I didn't mention the XOW, although I so badly last night and in the e-mail this morning wanted to say, "are you sure you will be "allowed" to go with us on spring break" pretending not to know they broke up to see if he would tell me they broke up and that is why he has no issue going. But, I said and wrote nothing!! For which I am very proud!

Now, if I can just be patient, keep my mouth shut, and keep going in this direction, I think things might improve. I am not holding my breath, but working on me in the mean time to learn more and gain more patiences and confidence. I know he is floored that I have made my work so important and a priority in my life, cause I was a stay at home mom for 16 years and he thought I was lazy and would never work full-time.

Any advice? I plan to just lay low and stay pretty dark, let him keep coming to me if he so desires. Anything else?

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