It hurts so much to even think that, much less say it. We've been seperated living under a seperate maintenence order for few weeks and she's already wanting to divorce me and get out. This whole eleven weeks we've been seperate she will not tell me she loves me. She said it hurt too much. Now when I ask her if she loves me or not she will only say, I will always care about you, your the father of my children. I mean what else could that mean?
My hopefullness is telling me that after four kids and eleven years of marriage, that she still loves me but, is trying to convince herself that's she doesn't.
Can you tell us a little more about the situation?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Drummerboy, I too got the ILYBNILWY (I love you but not in love with you) speech yesterday! I have been seperated for almost 6 weeks now. It does hurt really bad. I'm so sorry for your pain!!! I have gotten a lot of great advice from people on here, as I'm sure you have too. Hang in there.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
This is a quote from the movie Captain Corelies Madalin.
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."� -St. Augustine
Now she wants to email me the "settlement offer". My marriage is not an email! This is upsetting me bad. I do not believe that she truly does not love me. I think she's trying to convince herself and hurry the D up before you does come to her sences. The Devil is truly at work on my wife. She's not the same. Almost like as if she's possesed.
She's 31, had a hystarectamy about a year ago and is not on harmons. Could this be a midlife crisses thing? I'm still not giving up.
I could be jumping for joy. Looking for some little bubble butt hotty. Enjoying my freedom. You see, our oldest was three when we married and I adopted her shortly there after. So it's never been just her and I.
Our kids are 14,10,4&2. I've never wanted to change a poopy so bad!!!!!
I want my time with my kids back that I neglected for too long.
I'm sorry Drummer.....many have been in your shoes here. You want the pain to stop, you're in a panic gotta fix this quick, feels like your life is falling apart.....I know! I've been there. Many will tell you to take care of yourself. You can't control what she is saying or doing you can only do you. When this first started for me I heard these things to and I thought ya ya .....didn't listen because I was so fixated on an immediate solution to make it go away. Time will help you.
