I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[talia]

Hi Mark,
Thats very insightful - I have't done much research on it. I do think that H is depressed, but I'm not sure there is an underlying mental condition. He very much fits the "mid-life crisis" mold - even though he's only 30. Several sources for the abuse perspective see his low self esteem and control/passive/aggressive issues as big area's of concern. Reality is I would be happy to help him deal with whatever his issues might be, but he has to want to deal with them and right now he's running from them as fast as he can. None of his behavior - historically or now - has been as extreme as what you describe above. My brother has Bi-Polar disorder - so I have some idea as to what that looks like, H isn't it! H does need IC to deal with his issues.

Hi Flowmom,
I agree - people with high self esteem would want to work on a mostly healthy relationship. They would also be confident in themselves enough to help a partner who is having a tough time - like my depression - through that time without thinking its a direct reflection on their ability to make that person happy. Clearly low self esteem is the hallmark of a WAS.


Therapy last night when great. Therapist is very happy with how well I'm handling situations and how well I'm implementing boundaries - with everyone, not just H. I'm also using my coping skills much better and in an empowering way. I couldn't be happier with how I'm feeling, even though I miss H and wish this part would just get better.

Hope you all have a fabulous day!