I have read Dane's post. It doesn't explain what I should do for the confrontation and exposure. He confronted early. I am looking for the right way to do this.
Let me know your thoughts.
Personally, I would follow your wife's request ...
Originally Posted By: godhelpme
My wife asked for a boundary when she left. That she have space and No Contact. I respected her wishes and have not pursued. No calls, No texts, and only respond to her emails.
What good will come out of confronting her, now that she is moved out? Imagine the scenerio:
You = "Wife, I know you are seeing another man." Your Wife = "We're seperated. Leave me alone. I asked you for Space and No Contact. You will never change. You are a loser."
There is another way of approaching this situation. You have been dumped. Move on! Ignore her! And get on with your life quickly leaving your cheating spouse in the dust.
If reconcillation is going to happen after she is bored with the single life and sex with other men, then maybe it happens. What good is your time spent during this time, depressing and waiting around for someone that may not come around.
Know yourself. Grow as an individual. Experience life and live it to the fullest. You are on 28. You are still just a kid with alot of life ahead of you. I would give her exactly what she asked for and show her how right that situation is for you. Never contact her. Let her contact you. And when she does treat her like someone you would be interested in dating if they werent sleeping with someone else. Maybe find a "special" friend of your own so you can continue working on your flirting and interaction skills and techniques.
But most of all, I would use this experience to move forward with my life positively and happily. That will be the most attractive and best you that you can offer to your wife if reconcillation is possible or to the next person that enters your life and most importantly for yourself.