Do not let her know that you have the book, this is your playbook, she will think everything you do is out of the book and therefore trying to manipulate her into staying.
I think it is a good sign that your wife is crying regarding her "feelings". Let her figure her own way, do not push her in any direction, like I did. My wife finally, in a letter, to stop trying to fix her, that she had to fix herself. Just validate and really listen, but do not try to fix her.
I also would not tell her you are getting self-help books. To my wife, it looked to her that I had a revelation of bettering myself, being a father, and being a husband. In which I did, but it came from the people here and the book.
