Moving on with my life!

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It feels like Christmas when I see so many great responses! They are so appreciated and I am so thankful.

I agree. I talked with attorney yesterday briefly. I told him what the situation is. Of course to get any of the orders changed it will cost me $$ that I don't really have right now. So he said try things this way first....He said to have a face to face discussion with exh about time schedules and that it would be better for BOTH of us to have him make contact at least the morning of the visit to let me know when he will be coming. If he agrees, have him (and me) sign something that I draw up stating these new changes. If he disagrees, which he probably will, then he said to document that in my journal and we can proceed legally when we can. Exh's argument that he cannot pinpoint a time will be because of work and other kids schedules...and then he will say 'if he could take her then she would be able to do things with him. This supervised visit crap is hard for him blah blah blah." With the work situation he gets off anywhere from 2-5ish depending on if any calls come in. My attorney did say not to push him on how little he stays. He wants to keep any ammunition we may need in our pocket for the future and showing a pattern. He also advised me to be as cooperative as I can with baby (during his time). NEVER cancel unless its an emergency. His big phrase is 'do you want to win the battle or win the war?". He does agree that contact needs to be made a bit more in advance beings that this is 12 hours out of my week though.

I also called Child Support Services and explained that I live out of town and really need this garnishment packet. They said they normally do a mini interview first, but she will mail me the paperwork now and do my big interview later and save me one trip. THIS will blow exh out of the water. He will be so mad. He gets paid weekly so bookkeeper/exSIL/enabler will have to send CSS a check weekly as well.

Bracing for another wet and rainy day here.

Thanks to you all. I feel so much better getting a backbone!