i have been reading DR and am blown away about how dead on this thing is, only wish i would have read it years ago when M was fine.
so now the W immediatly started asking me why i was kissing her ass - to wwhich i replied that i am not kissing ass just working on bettering myself and becoming a better person. she them began to ask me questions about what i was reading and if i though by reading a book our marrage would be fixed. I simply told her - I don't know, but what i do know is that i need to fix myself.
she asked many questions about how she has given up, and how can things get back to the way they were (which i told her i did not want more of the same that led to our problem in the first place). she wanted to know how me fixing myself was going to change the way she flet, again i told her i don't really know.
she began to cry and said "what if i never get the feelings back for you" - again my answers was pretty much "i don't know".
the biggest thing i noticed was how she initially tried to "trap" me, but when i did not take the bait her tone changed and she began asking more.
i am still reading and about to present my R goal(s) to her, but in the mean time do i suggest that she do the same as i - fix herself? i mean there is a ton of stuff in DR that i am sure she could easily relate to, but i assume that it isn a good idea for both of us to be using the same book?
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
