Thanks for the candor.

We both interpret the divorce decree differently.

If we can come to agreement then most of the issues would be resolved.

I get the feeling he does not want to pay me one red cent, or reimburse me for my part of the children's medical expenses, or provide any documentation, while he expects all of that from me.

And to listen and obey.
Is insulting, demeaning and "My word is law.".

If I am factual, I'm wrong.
If I provide background, I'm confusing.
If I question, I'm an idiot.
If I do too much of the about, I receive "You are no longer my wife and I am not obligated to XYZ.." "Don't talk to me about financial hardship."

I do not respond in kind.

If he doesn't listen, or is not willing to review the settlement one on one, then a mediator or unbiased source might help untangle what our obligations truly are.

I hate to be the fighting toddlers in the sandbox.

Thanks for the suggestions and cooler heads.

*hugs*