I just "celebrated" my 26 year anniversary. I had exactly the same dilema. What should I do? I ended up buying a card and a gift cert. to a nail salon. My wife thanked me for the card and told me my gift was that she had been to a L to start our D proceedings. I started listening to what was being said on these boards after that.
Good luck, my advice is keep your eyes and ears open and your mouth shut. Believe nothing of what is said and 50% of what you see.
