so SHE has the same problem? She's looking for work too? Not to quibble but you always said this job was temporary and I thought it was to end in December, so I'm not clear on the shock factor here or the "out of the blue" comment. But anyhow as you said, she's in the same boat, so she's probably not feeling too financially secure either?
A problem being worked on, is not a problem anymore. You're job hunting now, more vigorously....that's good. Like you said, you needed a real kick in the butt to get going and now you have it. IF you can meet your obligations, why would she need to know? For all you know, she's looking for a job she thinks you might be looking at. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your kids and don't get blindsided again.
SO yeah, this is now, and you are doing what you gotta do. Do you have any savings?
If not, I guess a few weeks/months of unemployment is in order but be careful what you choose in terms of those leases...did you already sign that lease? See if there's a clause to cancel before moving in...then see if you can extend at the cheaper place, and save by not paying a mover...just keep costs low for now...very low. For now. This too, shall pass.
Really, Since you didn't like the old job anyhow and it was temporary too, you actually are making needed improvements to your life. I hope you see that inaction leads to crap sometimes. The very thing you fear, you can bring about by letting fear control you. I think CG was making that point, among others. And given your financial sitch, who knows? Splitting finances might have been a better move. Of course faithful is entitled to his opinion and is a great guy- but you two are not in the same boat financially for sure. No matter. You're moving along now...keep going. NO choice.
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