Dont think I have posted to you before but just caught up on your thread and wanted to give a quick thought on what you put down about your H comments regarding the trip.
As someone who has spent the last few years spending about 8 months a year in different countries on business trips let me tell you that they are boring. My W used to always imagine that I was away on these trips partying, having a good time, etc. So I took her on trip and guess what - she said it was boring and wnated to know how I put up with them. So in the end you aksed your H a question, he interpreted in a way and gave you an answer. Remember no expectations.
I realise that this is a sympton of the larger issues you are going through. I have the sort of same feelings at times with my W and her desire for 'financial independance' through the marriage. I sometimes wonder if this is a new 'trick' to get what she couldnt achieve through court cases. But then I try to put myself in her position, look at her desires and I see what she wants through her eyes and I can understand it. Someimes I have an unrealistic view that we will now have the 'perfect' relationship, but instead I am relaising that we get back mainly what was there before the upheaval - sometimes with some extra baggage.
You have come so far in this journey, from what I can see your H is very sincere in what he is saying and his desire to fix this up with you. Just remember sometimes things are said because we are tired or our mind is on somehting else.
Go for the trip, enjoy it and use this great time tp get closure again to your H.
Andrew
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