The problem is that the OW is just a band aid. All you're doing is creating more drama for you and your kids.

" it's OW's job as a GF to convince me I have a reason to not go back to W. "

Dude that's just weak. If that's your attitude now, then you've forgotten what it's like to date.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER