I'm curious about how much contact verbal or otherwise you have with your W since she moved out. My W is in the process of moving out and we have temporary custody arrangments in place at least for the month of Feb. We have nannies M-F from 8-6 and most of the handoffs will be between nanny and parent.
We have no visitation set up, my wife only rents a room. She does not have an apartment or condo or anything. There is no where for my son to sleep otherthan in the bed with my W, when he spends the night which is rare. Maybe 10 times in almost 5 months and my W is okay with that, total freedom from cleaning an apartment, feeding kids, taking care of them, homework, getting them ready for school, etc. It has been me 24/7 since Aug. 25th. I am not complaining but how can a mother detatch from her children like that?? It is not much different than if she had died, in fact I would say it is harder on my kids.
They recognize the fact that there is no desire what-so-ever on their mother's part to be with them. No conversations about, "Well, when I get a place of my own you will have a room and we will be able to do this or that...." nothing. She has not pursued me about helping her with that or anything, it is like she is back in college and she lives in a dorm room, party, party, party.
I think the separation agreement will be a wake up call. for her.
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