Not Me...Ever part 2

[Serenity13]

(((Rocked)))

Been to long

I stated these things to him over and over and for whatever reason, it isn't sinking in so you are right "tough love" is the only approach I have left...Doesn't make the decision any easier though

[Serenity13]

(((Mind)))

Well as sucky as it is, it is nice to know that it isn't limited to me and my S...

Last night it took all I had not to slap him into last week.

The "sense of entitlement" him and his Father display make me sick to my stomach...

Is Dad capable of handling punishments, rules, etc...?

LOL Is that a serious question?

Aren't you the one that asked this question? "Let me guess, YOU were the disciplinarian?"

The answer to the first question is no and the answer to the second question is yes.

[Serenity13]

(((Coach)))

I appreciate you coming here and showing your support...It is always good to see you and I hope all is wonderfully well in your life.

I know your wisdom and words are correct - My mind knows they are right - My heart says different...

My heart says "We didn't raise him to act this way"...

My heart says "Fix it"...

My head says at this time, I can't -

I can't fix everyone and there has got to come a point in time when I have to stop and actually fix myself before I can begin to try to fix anyone else.

[Gardener]

((Serenity))),

I can't fix everyone and there has got to come a point in time when I have to stop and actually fix myself before I can begin to try to fix anyone else.

Exactly.

[Awoken]

(((Serenity)))

I've been mostly away from the forums for a few days, and I missed what's been going on with you. All I can say is you are in my prayers still.

[Serenity13]

Well the cops have been here tonight due to an anonomous phone call - They were looking for my son who has violated parole by not being here at 8 - He walked in almost 2 hours after curfew and they were waiting for him

[SpyBunny]

((((((((Serenity))))))))

I'm sorry- maybe he'll start opening his eyes now.
Take care of yourself and the little one, and be ready for when your oldest is ready to admit he needs you- whenever that is. Maybe it'll be a little sooner now.

Bunny

[Lotus]

Here's advice from a mom who had a bad kid. Get out of the way. Don't protect him from the police, from the courts, from anything that makes him take the consequences of his actions. The sooner he learns that there are people more powerful than him, who can force him to obey, the sooner he will straighten out. He is smart enough to figure out how to get along in the world. And it is not by being disobedient.

[Gardener]

(((Serenity))),
Good. Tough, but good.
For him, for your young one. For you.
I'm sorry.

[Sugar and Spice]

((((Serenity))))

First, you are not a failure in any sense of the word so please stop beating yourself up.

I agree completely with Lotus. As hard as it is, BECAUSE you love him, its time to let him feel the consequences of his actions.

I'm so sorry things are this way for you. Please take care of yourself and your little one. This is also a lesson for the little one, that there are consequences to the choices we make, bad or good.

Hang in there.