I know you're doing most of this already, but it might bear repeating... it's a partial of what I posted to TriDoc:
Conduct in the Home: ====================
1) Walk around like you own the place... because you do. 2) NO skulking in the corners or hiding in the bedroom 3) Take control of the remote. 4) Ignore her. 5) NO housework... you are not the maid. 6) Be polite like you're talking to a (mental) patient when discussing anything about the kids 7) The kids IS all you talk about. 8) Act like the epiphany you've had
Thinking of you.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
I am dropping in on some people's threads who are great with posting help to others, I just read a posting in StBD forum from SirPrizeMe, that I think he really needs some help and prayers..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
Update from the day. I made it through my review. Next 90 days are critical for turning around the department I am in. Does that mean I don't have a job later this year? I don't know. I am focusing all of the energy I have on generating new business and working what work I have right now. A bit scary, but I have to keep a positive attitude. What's the alternative?
On the car front, I think I have settled on the car I want. Will require a trip out of town, and it's actually cheaper to fly one way than to rent a car one way. Surprising.
I created a rough budget, and I am relieved that I will not be living in a cardboard box. Things will change, but I will be able to have a life while retiring debt and paying my other bills.
Had a bit of a low moment today when I went to clean out my totalled car. Don't know why other than I felt a lot of stress weighing on me (M, job, finances, car buying). Each in the isolation is manageable, but throw them all together, and it can be a bit overwhelming. Deep breath and broke them up into smaller problems and dealt with them.
Seems very strange to be dealing with these issues without being able to talk to my W about them. That is not possible now. And, although that hurts and makes me feel empty in some respect, I can handle it. I have to.
Just had a short discussion with W tonight. Not going into details other than it was a talk that was "necessary." In the course of it, she tells me she has returned to C'ing. That was a surprise. Don't think it makes any difference in the outcome, just thought it was notable.
