DBing take a long time. Patience. It sounds like your H is just reacting to the news he wasn't expecting. Things just aren't going his way and he is p!ssed.
It won't hurt to speak with a lawyer or two or three. You should be able to get an 1 hour consult for free. You need to know what your legal rights are especially if H wants to file for bankruptcy.
Stay strong.
Mo3
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning