(((((T2))))) I feel you, too, are holding MY hand. What an awesome couple of posts. Listening to you now, wow, have you grown. And unless we do, we are doomed. I am seeing the scared H, afraid that he will be my whipping boy, trying to find the courage and confidence to open up to me and quit holding me at arm's length. There is nothing I can do to hurry this along, except continue to be quiet, confident, understanding and loving. I know he is waiting for this tiger to pounce on him, and when I don't, he is so purplexed... he is testing me as well, to see if I am genuine, or just waiting for him to show his soft underparts. This is a dance, and I am reminded of telling you to reel your H in carefully like a fish. I'm not even sure if my H has taken the bait, yet... but I think maybe he has.
The reality is, we have no control over any of this, except our ability to change, grow and WAIT. Thank you for your guidance during all of this. Thank you for growing, and posting your growth. Your love for your H and your M is so obvious now, your posts are dripping with it! Thank you for that.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
